We’ve all heard our grannies uttering the wise words “There’s plenty more fish in the sea” or maybe it is the old classic “hell has no fury like a woman scorned” but are they relevant in the modern world? After all my grannie has been gone some 45 years but they still trip off my […]

When unveiling the hidden costs of marriage I am reminded of the classic words of Woody Allen  “The most expensive sex is free sex” They say love is priceless – but there’s no denying that relationships, weddings and the divorce that follows can come with a substantial price tag. When it comes to falling in […]

Men and Menopause. Helping to understand men and menopause, is a vital step if we want to move forward in a new relationship, especially in mid-life. For me, and many other married men menopause was trivialised, ignored, or worse still joked about. Now that we find ourselves single again unless we start to understand and […]

How not to blow your divorce settlement; a very personal look at how I got things so wrong and what I would do differently in the future.  Ending up with a nice big cheque can be fun but learning how not to blow your divorce settlement can be harder than you think. Have you ever […]

Being Yourself Post Divorce Let’s face it, being yourself when you are married is quite tough but being yourself post-divorce can be harder. Think back to when you were still married. Ask yourself this question, ‘When did I do something truly for myself, something with only me in mind and just for my pleasure?’ How […]

Spotting Depression in Divorced Men The topic of spotting depression in divorced men is one that is very close to my heart and one that comes up daily in my new role helping struggling dads rebuild their lives. Whether it’s rebuilding financially, physically or emotionally the journey is reliant upon one thing. Understanding how to […]

Separation or Divorce So, what’s the difference between legal separation or divorce? Are you just putting off the inevitable? When are you separated and when do you become divorced? Can you have one without the other? Do you need to worry about the terminology? So many questions which you may not think are relevant especially […]

Right Person to Marry Second Time  Choosing the right person to marry the second time around is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever have to make. After a divorce, it’s understandable to want to rush into a new relationship. However, taking it slow and building a solid foundation is incredibly important. Spend time getting […]

How I Decided My Future With One Simple Choice. When I first found out that my wife was having an affair I never imagined I would decide my future with one simple choice. My world and my kids’ world had just fallen apart. In an instant, everything I knew and believed in was torn up […]

So why do women leave and have an affair? Understanding the reasons behind a breakup is like trying to catch water in a sieve. It is the one question that haunted me for months after our separation. After the total and utter shock, my first emotions left me numb with disbelief rather than anger or […]